Why has my 4 month old become so fussy?
Oh the four month fussies, what fun they are! Somewhere around 4 months ish (every baby is different) those lovely snuggly newborn feeds that you’d just got used to stop and your baby becomes more like an angry octopus fighting the breast. This is NORMAL, bloody hard but totally normal.
Somewhere around 4 months your baby suddenly realises that there is a great big world out there outside of your newborn bubble of themselves, your breasts and you and they want to see it all right now! This is a huge developmental stage for them. Your day times may become battles with a seemingly angry baby who one minute wants to feed and then 5 minutes later is unlatching, flailing arms, hitting and shouting at your breasts. NORMAL.
Nightimes, which may have become somewhat predictable for you with maybe only 2 or 3 wakeups also become battles with an ever wakeful and hungry baby. NORMAL.
This is another prime time that some mothers are told to start to supplement with formula or stop breastfeeding entirely as the assumption can be that baby is obviously not satisfied at the breast. NOT TRUE.
Your baby is simply going through a huge developmental leap and it’s as hard for them as it is for you. Here are some tips to get you through this tricky stage, it doesn’t last too long so try to stick it out,
- Still offer the breast whenever baby shows feeding cues, even if they only take it for 5 mins they are often much more efficient feeders by this age and can take what they need in a much shorter time.
- Try to keep daytime feeds in a quiet, calm space if possible to reduce distractions. Appreciate this is not always possible, especially if you have other older children at home too!
- Do not limit night time feeds. Baby may well be more wakeful and demanding more night time feeds as they will be making up for their reduced feeds during the day. Breastfeeding is also the ultimate sleep aid for them whilst their brain is so busy growing.
If you are at all concerned about your baby’s feeding patterns or any changes in behaviour around breastfeeding please reach out to us for support.